The first day of school brings with it a swirl of emotions - for kids and parents. Whether your child is starting preschool or TK for the very first time, moving up a class, or starting kindergarten at a "big kid school", this milestone is full of excitement, growth, and possibly a few tears (from both of you!).

Here are some ways you can support your little learner and make this school year a positive, confidence-building experience for the whole family.

1. Acknowledge the Emotions (Theirs and Yours)

Starting school can feel like a big leap. It’s completely normal for your child to feel excited one minute and nervous the next. Instead of brushing fears aside with a “You’ll be fine!”, try something like:

“It’s okay to feel a little nervous. I feel that way when I start something new too.”

Naming emotions helps kids understand and manage them better—and lets them know they’re not alone.

2. Establish Consistent Routines

Young children thrive on routine. In the weeks leading up to school, start adjusting bedtime and morning routines so your child knows what to expect. Consistency helps them feel safe, prepared, and ready to face the day with confidence.

3. Practice Independence at Home

Give your child little opportunities to practice skills they’ll use at school:

Each “I did it myself!” moment builds their sense of capability.

4. Talk About What to Expect

Reading books about school is a gentle way to introduce the idea of a classroom, a teacher, and new friends. Walk or drive by the school together, or if possible, attend any open house or orientation events. Familiarity reduces anxiety.

5. Create a Goodbye Ritual

A special hug, a high-five, or a quick phrase like “See you later, alligator!” can make goodbyes easier and more reassuring. Stick with the same goodbye ritual each day so your child knows what to expect.

6. Stay Positive (Even If You're Nervous)

Kids pick up on our emotions. If you’re feeling anxious, try to model calm confidence for your child. Trust that they’re in good hands and that they’ll learn, grow, and adapt beautifully over time.

7. Celebrate the Little Wins

Each day brings something worth celebrating—a new friend, a story they loved, a picture they drew. These little moments matter. They’re building blocks of confidence and joy.

Starting a new school year is a big step, but your love and support provide the solid foundation your child needs to take it with courage. Take a deep breath, give that goodbye hug, and know that you’re both learning and growing together.

Here’s to a year of discovery, laughter, and proud moments. You’ve got this, and so does your child!